Dan Savage

I think I've developed a crush on my wife's ex. I'm in my forties and my wife is older than me. We've been together for fifteen years. We are both women. Before we dated each other, we dated men exclusively. She had told me a lot about her ex before me. T... See more

I would love to get your opinion here, as someone who's married and poly and advises on all sorts of married relationships: Is the institution of marriage a scam? Context: I've been with my partner for nine years. We're both queer in gender and sexuality,... See more

I would love to get your opinion here, as someone who's married and poly and advises on all sorts of married relationships: Is the institution of marriage a scam? Context: I've been with my partner for nine years. We're both queer in gender and sexuality,... See more

I’m a 37-year-old (mostly) straight man who has been in and out of a series of committed, monogamous relationships for most of my adult life. I’m now at a point where I am feeling torn in two, and it doesn’t seem like there’s anyone in my life who I can a... See more

Been away for two weeks — happy to return to a packed inbox. Let’s get to the questions! — Dan I’ve wavered on sending this but I need advice. There’s this woman I’ve known most of my life. We are very close and we have as close to an open book friendship... See more